Identity Or Ideology Who Chooses Which Flags Matter
The first time I watched a flag start a fight, it wasn’t the Stars and Stripes. It was a small sticker on a laptop in a high school library, a striped square in pastel colors I recognized as a community flag. Two students read it differently. One saw it as a welcome. The other saw it as politics breaching a place that was supposed to be neutral. They argued in hushed tones until the librarian separated them, then met me in the hallway, palms up, asking a question I’ve heard
Supporting the Military: What Flying the American Flag Means to Me
The flag outside my house snaps in the high plains wind like a sail eager for open water. Some mornings I catch it glowing with that first slant of sun, the red so rich it looks wet, the blue almost purple. I have raised it in rain squalls and in powdery snow, during quiet Tuesdays and on the loudest of July nights. It started as a simple ritual. It became a promise. I grew up watching a neighbor, a Vietnam veteran with a limp and a grin, raise his flag at dawn with a ca
Identity Under the Stars and Stripes: What Role Should Schools Play in Shaping a Child’s Relationship to the American Flag?
The school day had barely started when my eighth graders stood for the Pledge. A few eyes tracked the red, white, and blue hanging above the whiteboard. A handful of students stayed seated, quiet and steady. One girl placed her hand over her heart and whispered the words, another mouthed nothing and looked out the window toward the soccer field. No one argued. Afterward, we opened our notebooks and moved into a discussion about civic symbols and civic actions. The students
Ban the US Flag? What Schools Are Really Teaching About Patriotism
A few years ago, the principal of a midsize high school called me about a brewing fight over flags. A handful of students had started hanging large US flags from their pickup beds in the parking lot. Another group responded by bringing Pride flags to a school spirit day. Within a week, the assistant principal confiscated a thin blue line flag and asked the truck kids to put their flags away, arguing that they blocked visibility. A parent posted the exchange on Facebook, the
Is Banning Prayer Truly Neutral—or a Constitutional Decision with Consequences?
A few years ago I stood at the back of a high school gym as the band tuned up and the valedictorian rehearsed her speech. An assistant principal reminded the student emcee, quietly but firmly, not to add a prayer to the program. Minutes later, when the crowd settled in, the emcee offered a moment of silence. Some parents bowed their heads. Others checked their phones. Nothing felt especially radical, or especially sacred. It felt careful. That carefulness has become a fe
Should Schools Mirror the Community—or Redefine It? The Flag Question
Walk into a school lobby and you can read the room before anyone speaks. A flag in the corner, a poster on the wall, the morning announcements, the student projects along the hallway, all of it signals what the adults believe school is for. Some communities want those signals to feel familiar, even patriotic. Others want the space to feel deliberately open and less anchored to national symbols. The debate over flags is really a debate about purpose. Should schools reflect c
When the US Flag Comes Down: What Values Go With It?
On a rainy Monday a few years ago, a middle school principal I know asked his custodian to move a cluster of flags from the main hallway to a smaller side corridor. The building had collected them over time, a big Stars and Stripes, a state flag, and a couple of banners donated by service organizations. The principal was trying to declutter the entryway before a construction project, and he figured the change would keep the flags cleaner during months of dust. He did not an
Protecting Students or Policing Patriotism? The US Flag at School
A few Septembers ago, a high school administrator in a midwestern district asked for help with what sounded like a small thing. A student had started wearing a large American flag as a cape during spirit week. It was drawing attention, then pushback. A teacher worried about escalating politics in class. A parent praised the student for pride. Another called the principal to ask why a flag was allowed when the school had turned down a request to display another symbol two mo